FRONT-PORCH GOSPEL: Hope the lady on the side of the road is home for Christmas
And then there's my favorite column we share around Christmas.
More than 20 years ago, we first told the story we are about to share together. Sometimes, our favorite stories are the simplest, aren’t they? They’re the ones that run out to meet you in the front yard. Those heart-warming types of stories seem to live the longest, as it is with today’s story about a little lady on the side of the road. …
The idea for this Christmas story comes, I suppose, from an appropriate place: from a homeless lady standing on the side of the road at a red light with a sign, “Please help. Trying to get home for Christmas.”
Seeing that lady – many days shy of thirty years – with teeth unkept and clothes shabby, standing there during the Christmas season begging, brought a lump to my throat. I couldn’t help it. But I handed her five dollars – a small price, really.
I know. She may make more money in a day than we make in a week.
I know. She may use the money to buy drugs or alcohol.
But I couldn’t think about those things as I rolled down my window and handed her a little money, and asked:
“Where’s home?”
“Oklahoma,” she said, kindly, “I want to go to Oklahoma for Christmas to see my two kids.”
“I hope you make it,” I said, “I really hope you do.”
The light turned green, and she said “God bless you,” and my daughter Rachel and I pressed on about our holiday business, buying gifts, hustling and bustling along with the rest of the world.
After a moment, I looked over at my daughter Rachel, and I could tell that she was still processing that little thirty-second scene.
“I don’t know whether that girl was really in need or not,” I said, “but whatever brings a person to stand on the corner of a street to beg for money is sad.”
Especially during the holidays.
I’ve carried that little memory with me this week as I’ve spent time with my family. I've also thought of all the things I hope to do this week during this holiday season.
Ah, the list is long:
Drink a cup of hot chocolate with marshmallows.
Roast marshmallows in the fireplace.
Open presents in front of the fire and watch faces glow.
Watch “It’s a Wonderful Life” and “Home Alone” one more time.
Eat fudge and chocolate-covered cherries and pretzels dipped in white chocolate.
Play cards around the kitchen table. (Not Uno, I always lose at Uno!)
Sleep late and wake to the sound of cartoons and the smell of breakfast cooking.
Watch football.
Go for a walk together in the crisp wintry air.
Jump in the car with family and drive around ooo-ing and ahhh-ing at all the lights and decorations.
Drink spicy hot apple cider.
Call my grandma and wish her a happy 89th Christmas (This was written in 1999).
Listen to my favorite Christmas song: “Away in a manger, no crib for a bed. The little Lord Jesus laid down his sweet head. The stars in the sky looked down where he lay. The little Lord Jesus asleep in the hay …”
And then listen to our second favorite: “Silver Bells. Silver Bells. It’s Christmas time in the city. Ding-a-ling. Hear them ring. Soon it will be Christmas Day ...”
Walk around the house, lighting the mood and singing, “Dashing through the snow, in a one-horse-open sleigh. O’er the fields we go, dashing all the way”–until my kids say, “Dad, please stop singin’ that song!”
Be nice and accommodate my kids’ request to "Please stop singing that song!" choosing instead: “Rudolph the red nose reindeer. Had a very shiny nose. And if you ever saw it, you would even say it glows …”
Then, change songs and the mood, again, this time for my own sake: “I’ll be home for Christmas. If only ... in ... my … dreams.”
You know, that’s what I want most of all.
Just being here with the ones we care about the most, and we see that they are safe and sound, doing well this year, and home for Christmas.
And I really hope that all of you get a chance to be home this year. I hope you gather with your families and loved ones and at least do a few of the things on this list, with joy. And somewhere up in Oklahoma, I hope there’s a young lady who once stood on the side of the road, now opening presents and singing Christmas tunes with two happy little kids who call her mom.
If that little dream comes true, that’ll be one less person homeless for Christmas.
Coach Steven Ray Bowen served as a teacher and basketball coach at Red Oak High from 1998-2012 and recently spent two years teaching and coaching at Ferris. He and his wife Marilyn (the “amazin’ blonde”) served many years with the Church of Christ of Red Oak at Uhl/Ovilla Roads, but now spend time evangelizing in several states in addition to Coach’s work as a writer and author, including the writing of the ongoing novel/memoir here in the Press. Call or text (972) 824-5197, or email coachbowen1984@gmail.com, or see frontporchgospel.com.