Happy Holidays with children
During this happy, too-busy time it’s easy to lash out at our children.
The next time everyday pressures build up to the point you feel like lashing out, stop and see if you can try any of these simple alternatives.
You will feel better ... and so will your children!
* Take a deep breath, and another, and another. Remember: YOU are the adult!
* Close your eyes and think about what your child is likely to hear from you, if you continue in this frenzied state.
* Press your lips together tightly and count to 10. . . or to 20!
* Put your child in a safe place for a time-out. Remember the rule: one time-out minute for each year of age.
* Put yourself in a time-out. Think why you are angry: is it your child, or is your child simply a convenient target for your anger?
* Phone a friend.
* If someone can watch the children, go outside and take a walk.
* Take a bath, or splash cold water on your face.
* Hug a pillow, your spouse, and/or your children!
* Turn on some music . . . singing along with the music is even better! Include your children for a fun sing-a-long this will break the stressed cycle for everyone!
* Pick up a pencil and write down as many good qualities about your children as you can; save the list!
Enjoy the holidays. Remember that most of the preparations we make are for the children, and we want to create as many positive memories as possible.
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